Today is my thirty-seventh wedding anniversary. For nearly four decades I have been married to my best friend.
I am among the most fortunate of people because I have endured the adventure of life and find myself still in relationship with my original team-mate.
You might ask me, what makes a strong Christian marriage?
And, my answer would be, two good Christians, and by this I mean two people who both love the Lord Jesus Christ with all their heart.
It is my belief that a strong marriage must have as its foundation two lives where Jesus is the priority. If this foundation in place then you have the ability to faithfully, together, pursue a path of obedience to Jesus Christ and His plan for your lives.
Marriage is first a commitment and then it grows into a deep love. And, the base of the commitment in marriage, is first of all, not to each other, but to Jesus Christ and His will.
Centuries ago the prophet Malachi warned those who had cast their marriage commitments aside,
You cover the altar of the Lord with tears,
With weeping and crying;
So He does not regard the offering anymore,
Nor receive it with goodwill from your hands.
Yet you say, “For what reason?”
Because the Lord has been witness
Between you and the wife of your youth,
With whom you have dealt treacherously;
Yet she is your companion
And your wife by covenant.
But did He not make them one,
Having a remnant of the Spirit?
And why one?
He seeks godly offspring.
Therefore take heed to your spirit,
And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth.
“For the Lord God of Israel says
That He hates divorce,
For it covers one’s garment with violence,”
Says the Lord of hosts.
“Therefore take heed to your spirit,
That you do not deal treacherously.”
You have wearied the Lord with your words;
Yet you say,
“In what way have we wearied Him?” Mal 2:13-17 (NKJV)
Marriage is, first and foremost, a covenant before God and as soon as you get married, Satan will come after you. He will target you because the bottom line is–he would love to destroy the covenant that you have made and the family that you have established.
In the end, the best way you can protect your marriage, is to develop a deep personal relationship with Jesus Christ as the bedrock for your own life. A marriage between two people with Jesus Christ as the true center is the best protective insulation you can have against the assaults of this world.